How to Discipline a Toddler Without Hitting Part 5: Applying Brene Brown’s Empathy and Shame Research for Realistic Expectations

Wherever I look, I see signs of the commandment to honor one’s parents and nowhere of a commandment that calls for the respect of a child. -Alice Miller Recently my two-year-old dashed up to me, wrapped her short little arms around my neck and said, “Mom, you’re my best friend.”  My heart nearly burst. I […]

How to Discipline a Toddler Without Hitting Part 4: Creating Consequences with purpose Through John Gottman’s Emotion Coaching

It’s okay to be angry, it’s not not not okay to hurt someone. -Daniel Tiger’s Neighborhood When using an authoritative approach to parenting as described in part 3, it’s important for parents to keep in mind their long-term goals. Children need to immediately stop harmful, destructive, or unkind behavior, but it is also important for […]

How to Discipline a Toddler Without Hitting Part 3: Understanding the Need for Control with Baumrind Parenting Styles

Children will not remember you for the material things you provided but for the feeling that you cherished them. -Richard L. Evans  Parenting is akin to Goldilocks and the three little bears. At first Goldilocks tries the porridge that is too cold. This is the parent who is strict and unyielding, treating the child with […]

How to Discipline a Toddler Without Hitting Part 1: Introducing Discipline

No-Drama Discipline encourages kids to look inside themselves, consider the feelings of others, and make decisions that are often difficult. . .When we’re willing to lovingly set a boundary. . .we help create neural connections that improve our kids’ capacity for relationships, self-control, empathy, personal insight, morality, and much, much more. And they can feel […]