How to Discipline a Toddler Without Hitting Part 4: Creating Consequences with purpose Through John Gottman’s Emotion Coaching

It’s okay to be angry, it’s not not not okay to hurt someone. -Daniel Tiger’s Neighborhood When using an authoritative approach to parenting as described in part 3, it’s important for parents to keep in mind their long-term goals. Children need to immediately stop harmful, destructive, or unkind behavior, but it is also important for […]

Why I Stopped Punishing My Kids: Negative Effects of Punishment

A person who has been punished is not less inclined to behave in a given way, at best, he learns how to avoid punishment. -B.F. Skinner Dan, at four years old, kept poking his little brother in the head no matter how much I explained that this was not a pleasant sensation. . . . […]

“That’ll Teach You to Hit!” Addressing Aggressive Behavior with Modeling in Mind

Kids don’t remember what you try to teach them. They remember what you are. ~ Jim Henson There was a classic psychology study done in the 1960s by Albert Bandura called the Bobo doll experiment to better understand observational learning. Boys and girls ages 3-6 we’re randomly assigned one of three conditions. In the first […]